HOW YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE FROM THE INSIDE OUT?
Do you believe you have the power to change your reality and unleash your full potential?
As The Buddha said,
“We’re what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.”
SO BASICALLY, WHAT WE THINK TURNS INTO REALITY.
Have you ever reflected upon where your thoughts come from?
And how can you actually influence them, so you can transform your reality, and your life for the better?
Thoughts arise in our mind, which is divided into two parts, the conscious and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is the part over which we have control. We use it to think, analyze, and understand the world around us. This is the tip of the iceberg that extends above the water. Beneath the water is a much larger bulk of the iceberg, which represents our subconscious. It’s a vast, unseen reality that works as a powerful storehouse. It absorbs whatever the conscious mind focuses on without any filter. Since it has no filtering mechanism, it can only assume that any thought that the conscious mind is concentrating on is what it wants.
Its job is not only to store information, but also to respond to the input and set things into motion for its full manifestation. So, if you live in fear, whatever you fear is sure to manifest because that’s the focus of your thoughts.
One of the most important things (that you might already know for a decade or so from `The Secret`)is to discipline your thoughts and focus on what you want and not what you don’t want.
Be aware of what thoughts and images you cultivate and give energy to.
BUT, WHAT ABOUT ALL THE STUFF THAT IS BURIED IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS?
We have a storage full of other people’s thoughts, feelings, opinions and beliefs that we can hardly identify: deeply rooted beliefs and fears that are not ours and still steer our life. This is where it becomes super interesting.
All we ever absorbed unfiltered drives our decision-making and the steps we take in our life.
Our beliefs serve to function as our subconscious autopilot. Once formed, we take them for granted and don’t question them. We assume them to be true, whether they actually are or not. They determine how we perceive the world and people around us and influence what we consider possible or achievable.
Beliefs create emotions that influence our thoughts, the choices we make, the actions we take, and the results we get.
That is how we create our reality!
And what can we do to change it?
WE HAVE TO CLEAN UP THE STORAGE!
When we’re born, we enter this world with pure potential inside us without preconceived beliefs. We are fearless. Our curiosity took us to places we wouldn’t dare to go now.
However, as you began to age, you were told how this world works, what is possible and not possible. You were also introduced to an unending list of rules about what you should say, how you should be, and what you should do and mainly not do. Our caregivers, teachers, friends meant it for good, but that’s how we learned to stand in our own way.
Have you ever made a statement like “I’m not good at talking in front of people” or “I’m not good with money,” or “I have two left feet and would never make a good dancer”? These are simple examples of limiting beliefs that put you in the corner of your own making and often falsely define you.
Our experiences also form our beliefs. Most of them are positive ones, but if, for example, you fall in love, and it ends in heartbreak, you might internalize the experience as “love always ends in pain.”
These unconscious stories, convictions, and judgments keep us stuck and hinder us from living up to our highest potential.
WHERE TO START?
Firstly with awareness. Identify what needs to shift, transform, or heal. The process of changing your reality begins in the unseen realms and moves to the seen. We’re often completely unaware of our limiting beliefs (even if we have been on a self-development path for a while). They operate behind the scenes. Start by uncovering as many limiting beliefs within you as possible.
Some examples of limiting beliefs that we can take on during life include:
- “I am not ………….. enough”(insert what you heard yourself saying to others or telling to yourself: attractive, smart, rich, tall, interesting, good, etc.)
- “I don’t have enough ………….. (insert what you’re telling to others and yourself: support, understanding, time, experience, money, brains, strength, etc.)
- I don’t deserve …………….. ((insert what you’re telling to others and yourself in your self-talk: happiness, love, etc.)
- I am unlovable.
- I’m worthless.
- I’m a failure.
- I don’t matter.
- I always hurt people.
- I’m shameful.
- I’m bad.
- I don’t belong.
The list only displays a sample of many possible limiting beliefs. Remember that these beliefs are not facts! Really! What I experienced is that transforming my beliefs and the fears attached to them is a process that does not happen overnight. The deeper you go, the more there is to discover. I’m still finding limiting beliefs and fears within myself after years of inquiring, reflection, and inner work.
The wider we open the doorway to the world of the subconscious, the more clearly we see our subconscious emotional patterning or beliefs. Without doing the inner work and letting go of our stuff, we can’t get anywhere near our own souls.
I listened for a long time to the stories I tell myself. They are always related to some fear I’m experiencing. For example, a fear of calling that person and being vulnerable, or a fear of getting onto the stage and putting myself out there, or a fear of letting go of control and trusting that everything is happening in my highest good; fear of taking the next step forward on my journey and getting out of my comfort zone into unknown territories. I realized the fear and the little voice in my head wouldn’t really go anywhere. The situations might still make me uncomfortable, but I don’t remain paralyzed, nor pushing. I’m noticing the fear and take action despite it. Not in a forceful way, more like in a dance with a partner. And guess who I’m partnering with: MY SOUL.
If you’re ready to take yourself on the adventure to discover yourself deeper and know your limitless Self, let us journey together.
References: Alan Seale (2003). Soul Mission, Life Vision: Recognize Your True Gifts and Make Your Mark In The World. Boston, USA: Red Wheel
Author: Gabriella Csanádi